Its all a matter of choice!
When clients first come to me for help with their life challenges they often say things like “well, I don’t have a choice” or they use the word ‘can’t’ when they describe their inability to stop doing something that no longer serves them in a positive way.
A great deal of people feel like certain situations, thought processes and/or habits are out of their control and that they have no ‘choice’; its the stimulus response scenario! BUT…
When the telephone rings (stimulus), we generally answer it (response). If someone throws a ball at you (stimulus), your reflex (or response) is to catch it, even if you were not expecting it. If you are a smoker you will probably have certain times that you light up; with your first cup of coffee/tea in the morning, when your friend calls you, or when you stop at traffic lights if you smoke in your car. In these scenarios, the cigarette is the response and the situation is the stimulus.
However, there is a split second between the stimulus and the response and in that ‘gap’ you can make a conscious choice and potentially change your mind. In that split second you can change your outlook, habits, thought processes and ultimately your life!
So… which will you be, proactive or reactive?? The choice is yours!